Love and despair

Happy Schmalentines Day!♥

It’s day two of my love blogging series and I think I’ll add to today’s cheesy/mushy/sappy/silly/drippy/sugary/syrupy-ness by sharing and bringing back kilig or cringe-worthy (your pick) love quotes archived from an old blog post because I love sharing and well, I love that I have the perfect excuse to be silly today.

Who knows, these quotes just might find their way to your valentine cards, love notes, text messages and Facebook wall posts (again, your pick). Or you can just mull over them if you’re the contemplative type. And for the cynics and “valentheists” who don’t believe in Valentine’s Day, I’m throwing in a couple of quotes for your cynical pleasure too.

What really matters in picking your chocolate is not the sweetness but its capability of making you happy no matter how bitter it could sometimes get. You can always crave for any, but there will always be that special chocolate that’s enough for you to forget the rest.

Love doesn’t matter if you make lousy coffee or your hair is messy. Love will still kiss you even when you have colds. Love moves your seat back when you need it, reminds you to bring your hanky, smiles if you do. Love may not have time for intimate dinners or walks on the beach – you’ll sometimes make do with a night of TV shows, but love will stand by you… guide you… remind you… that you’re never alone.

The sad situation is not the discovery that my prince is committed to someone else. What’s truly pathetic is how I tried to snatch the princess role for myself… when really I am just one of the crowd watching them in the royal parade.

If you have your chance now, take it. If you want something, nothing can stop you. Don’t leave your life up to fate or destiny or whatever. It’s always your choice. Take charge. Do what you can now. Do what makes you happy. And to hell with the consequences. If you get bitten, then you’ll know it wasn’t for you. At least there won’t be any regrets or what ifs. There’s always a risk, but not taking that risk is a even bigger risk.

When you’ve found the reason to walk away, never look back. Just keep on walking, even if the destination is unclear. It will take a lot of courage for every step you make, but it will save you some pride and honor for yourself. It’s better to get lost moving on than being stranded and broken after all.

It’s an enigma when you fall in love and accept that some good things never last. Suddenly, you’ll begin to see yourself as nothing. It’s an agony to accept that despite the feelings you have, it’s all not enough. But when you love someone, you would do the hardest thing and yes, it’s not going to be easy, but at least you know that what you felt was real. In the end, you’ll ask yourself, “does it hurt?” Then you’ll close your eyes and whisper, “yes… but it may be worth it.”

A perfect partner in life is someone you can be with and talk about anything without realizing that the day is over. Someone who will always listen and feel twice the joy or pain you are going through. When you start to feel that connection, never let it go because there is more to companionship than to love only. Because in the end, when all else fails, you will always hold on to those times when you don’t even need to hear the words “I love you.”

Holding on can make us filter our love’s imperfections and preserve the image we have of him or her. But letting go takes us to another place where we learn to look at the imperfections within ourselves, accept that the image we held on to has evolved and embraced new opportunities in the horizon.

Find someone who isn’t afraid to admit that they miss you. Find someone who knows that you’re not perfect, but treats you as if you are. Someone whose biggest fear is losing you. One who gives their heart completely. Someone who says “I love you” and means it. Last but not the least, find someone you wouldn’t mind waking up with in the morning, seeing your wrinkles and gray hair but still falls in love with you all over again.

Someday, we’ll all be looking back at those days when we loved, got hurt, cried and fought. Maybe when that time comes, we’ll be laughing at our old dumb selves, realizing how stupid we were to stand up for things we knew were not really meant for us. But I guess learning takes time and mistakes make one’s journey fun. Life is what we make it. Love makes the world go round. So let’s live, love and take whatever pain it brings.

When your feelings get strong for someone, it’s always wise to stop for a while and give your heart a time to breathe. A time to use your mind to weigh the situation based on reason, not on emotion because the saddest thing that can happen is when one falls in love while the other wants nothing more than friendship. Love can sometimes be magic, but magic can sometimes be just an illusion and illusions never change into something real.

Hearts don’t really break. Nobody gets to break a heart. And no one can. Because hearts, after the wildest storms survive and will always stay intact. When you feel pain in the region of your heart, it’s not the heart that’s breaking but something else… faith. And then you stop believing.

Someday, we’ll forget the pains that caused our tears and why we cried. We would finally realize that the secret of being free is not revenge but letting things unfold in their own ways and that life is simply a blank book. After all, what matters is not the first but the last chapter which shows how well we run the race. So smile, laugh, forgive, believe and love over and over again. Keep dreaming. Keep loving.

You know it’s been sad that we just don’t recognize the significant moments of our lives while they’re happening. We grow complacent with ideas or things or people and we take them for granted. And it’s usually not until that thing is to be taken away from you that you realize how wrong you’ve been, that you realize how much you really need it, how much you really love it.

And because sharing is loving, here are some love-related quotes I found scribbled in old notes:

Do not go looking for your soul mate out there. Look inside and find your own soul mate. Embrace that wonderful being of love that you truly are, and then you will attract to your life another being, in touch with his or her own love, to walk alongside you. In this way, you will discover a higher purpose to your life and relationships and walk through this world in love. — Hot Chocolate for a Mystical Lover

I used to think life was like a jigsaw… I thought you spent your time looking for the pieces to put together and when you had them all, things made sense. But the thing is, when you get to the sky bit – the real mysteries – the colors tend to look the same. You just have to keep exploring… experimenting. Because in the end it’s not about shapes or patterns but what fits in your heart. — Wise Follies by Grace Wynne-Jones

If I do meet someone special, I hope that I’ll recognize him. Not let him slip by without at least letting him know how I feel. That kind of thing takes courage, but I think it’s worth it. — Wise Follies by Grace Wynne-Jones

After everything in our lives – after all we do or say or hope for – all that will be left finally, is love. — How to Make an American Quilt by Whitney Otto

Until one morning, I’ll wake up and find I’m thinking about something else, and then I’ll know the worst is over. My heart might be bruised, but it will recover and become capable of seeing the beauty of life once more. It’s happened before, it will happen again, I’m sure. When someone leaves, it’s because someone else is about to arrive – I’ll find love again. — The Zahir by Paulo Coelho

In this world, there is so much of what looks like love, and sounds like love, and calls itself love, but it isn’t. It’s just people saying and doing what they think they ought to say and do. — Evening

Add to the cheesiness… share those quotes you love too!

But most importantly, don’t forget to share the

 

what really matters in picking your chocolate is not the sweetness but its capability of making you happy no matter how bitter it could sometimes get. you can always crave for any, but there will always be that special chocolate that’s enough for you to forget the rest.”

*


“love doesn’t mind if you make lousy coffee or your hair is messy. love will still kiss you even when you have colds. love moves your seat back when you need it, reminds you to bring your hanky, smiles if you do. love may not have time for intimate dinners or walks in the beach – you’ll sometimes make do with a night of tv shows, but love will stand by you… guide you… remind you… that you’re never alone.”

*


“the sad situation is not the discovery that my prince is committed to someone else. what’s truly pathetic is how i tried to snatch the princess role for myself… when really i am just one of the crowd watching them in the royal parade.”

*


“if you have your chance now, take it. if you want something, nothing can stop you. don’t leave your life up to fate or destiny or whatever. it’s always your choice. take charge. do what you can now. do what makes you happy. and to hell with the consequences. if you get bitten, then you’ll know it wasn’t for you. at least there won’t be any regrets or what ifs. there’s always a risk, but not taking that risk is an even bigger risk.”

*


“when you’ve found the reason to walk away, never look back. just keep on walking, even if the destination is unclear. it will take a lot of courage for every step you make, but it will save some pride and honor for yourself. it’s better to get lost moving on than being stranded and broken after all.”

*


“it’s an enigma when you fall in love and accept that some good things never last. suddenly, you’ll begin to see yourself as nothing. it’s an agony to accept that despite the feelings you have, it’s all not enough. but when you love someone, you would do the hardest thing and yes, it’s not going to be easy, but at least you know that what you felt was real. in the end, you’ll ask yourself, “does it hurt?” then you’ll close your eyes and whisper, “yes… but it may be worth it.”

*


“a perfect partner in life is someone you can be with and talk about anything without realizing that the day is over. someone who will always listen and feel twice the joy or pain you are going through. when you start to feel that connection, never let it go because there is more to companionship than to love only. because in the end, when all else fails, you will always hold on to those times when you don’t even need to hear the words “i love you.”

*


“holding on can make us filter our love’s imperfections and preserve the image we have of him or her. but letting go takes us to another place where learn to look at the imperfections within ourselves, accept that the image we held on to has evolved and embrace new opportunities in the horizon.”

*

“find someone who isn’t afraid to admit that they miss you. someone who knows that you’re not perfect, but treats you as if you are. someone whose biggest fear is losing you. one who gives their heart completely. someone who says i love you and means it. last but not the least, find someone you wouldn’t mind waking up with in the morning, seeing your wrinkles and gray hair but still falls in love with you all over again.”

*

“someday, we’ll all be looking back at those days when we loved, got hurt, cried and fought. maybe when that time comes, we’ll be laughing at our old dumb selves, realizing how stupid we were to stand up for things we knew were really not meant for us. but i guess learning takes time and mistakes makes one’s journey fun. life is what we make it. love makes the world go round. so let’s live, love and take whatever pain it brings.”

*


“when your feelings get strong for someone, it’s always wise to stop for a while and give your heart a time to breathe. a time to use your mind to weigh the situation based on reason not on emotion because the saddest thing that can happen is when one falls in love while the other wants nothing more than friendship. love can sometimes be magic, but magic can sometimes be just an illusion and illusions never change into something real.”

*


“hearts don’t really break. nobody gets to break a heart. and no one can. because hearts, after the wildest storms survive and will always stay intact. when you feel pain in the region of your heart, it’s not the heart that’s breaking but something else… faith. and then you stop believing.”

*

“someday, we’ll forget the pains that caused the tears and why we cried. we would finally realized that the secret of being free is not revenge but letting things unfold in their own ways and that life is simply a blank book. after all, what matters is not the first but the last chapter which shows how well we run the race. so smile, laugh, forgive, believe and love over and over again. keep dreaming. keep loving.”

*


“you know it’s been sad that we just don’t recognize the significant moments of our lives while they’re happening. we grow complacent with ideas or things or people and we take them for granted. and it’s usually not until that thing is about to be taken away from you that you realize how wrong you’ve been, that you realize how much you really need it, how much you really love it.”

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3 thoughts on “Love and despair

    • WOW! This is so surreal! THE Grace Wynne-Jones just commented on my blog! I still can’t wipe off the silly grin on my face now. I totally enjoyed reading “Wise Follies” and those quotes from your novel really inspired me, I just had to share them with my friends through my blog. I can’t imagine how you found your way here, but I’m so glad you did. MANY, MANY THANKS too for dropping by and leaving nice words. It means so much to me. I look forward to reading your other books! 🙂

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